5 Tips to Help Kids Be Kind and Compassionate from PBS Kids

We all remember Mister Rogers and his lessons about how to be a good neighbor–lessons that live on even though Mister Rogers and his show are gone. PBS Kids has released materials to help you celebrate National Neighbor Day on September 28 and talk to your kids about kindness, empathy, and understanding. Kids who love to play games on iPads or iPhones might like the Neighbor Day online game from Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood that helps little ones learn that there are many ways to be a good neighbor. There’s also a free crafting project that will help kids map their own neighborhoods. On the PBS website Katie Hurley has released five tips to raise inclusive, kind kids. These strategies include:

1. Focus on emotions.

When kids learn how to label their emotions, they can better understand what they feel and what makes them feel certain ways, Hurley says. To teach your kids ways to identify feelings, use feeling words (like happy, sad, curious, angry) to describe your own day. You can also discuss the mind/body connection, use the Daniel Tiger Grr-iffic Feelings app, and make emotion check-ins a part of your family’s everyday routine. You can do check-ins every morning and every night, Hurley suggests.

2. Be an includer.

Kids will always learn by watching–and are always watching you! PBS suggests that when parents include and help others, kids will learn that it’s a good thing to do. Including others doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive: you can simply invite other kids to join your family’s game or tag, or invite your neighbor on your walk.

“When parents show kids that including others helps lift the spirits of others and decreases loneliness, kids learn to look for the lonely and take steps to help them feel included,” Hurley says.

3. Avoid snap judgments.

Growing up will be full of moments kids will have strong feelings about–and one of these moments might include what you see as bullying. However, Hurley says that what might seem like bullying directed at your child–such as pushing and grabbing–might actually be underdeveloped social skills or lack of frustration tolerance. So don’t be quick to judge the other children in your child’s life. If you classify others as “bullies” or “mean”, kids will learn to judge and exclude. When you can remain calm and help your kids process all moments and emotions, using empathy and compassion, they will learn to better empathize with others.